Welcome to your Focus Point
Do you find it difficult to have difficult conversations?
Most of us shy away to avoid conflict and confrontation....
Those hard conversations....
There are times in our lives when it's important to set our boundaries... These can include 1. exercising our right to disagree 2. saying "no" without feeling guilty, 3. setting our own priorities; 4. getting what we paid for, 5. protecting ourselves from duress and harm.
One method to consider when needing to express difficult emotions is the XYZ technique - I feel X when you do Y in situation Z.
Here are some examples...
"I feel upset when you talk to me in a condenscending tone when we have a discussion."
"I feel disappointed that you didn't follow through when you said you would."
"I feel uncomfortable when you give me more tasks when I already have an overloaded schedule."
Avoid using sentences that begin with "you" and followed by accusation or judgment, such as "you are...," "you should...," or "you need to...."
"You" language followed by such directives put the listener on the defensive, and make them less likely to be open to what we have to say.
When you have difficult emotions to express use X, Y Z technique!