KIDS FIGHTING: PREVENTION
Why do kids fight?
A) Don't have words/skills to negotiate conflict. B) Strong emotions shut down clear thinking.
Pick a problem/ solutions ?
Problem: Girl wants boy's trike Your child gives following possible solutions: A) Girl asks for trike in 2 minutes. B) Girl asks to ride on back of trike. C) Girl gets another bike. D) Girl pushes boy off trike.
Roll with their answers
Write what he says down
Don't judge answer if it includes hitting, etc. Have fun with silly answers they like to give.
Pick solution/consequences ?
Pick solution: Girl pushes boy off trike. Your child gives following possible consequences: A) Girl gets hit back. B) Girl sent into house. C) Boy won't play with girl anymore.
Practice finding solutions to many problems. Then practice thinking of consequences to many solutions. Have kids act out solutions and consequences so that they internalize them better. http://www.puffinschool.org/articles/ item/kids-fighting-2.html